by Shauna Gallagher
This week we continue the journey of building our resilience by looking at two more areas we can work on - self-esteem and boundaries.
Have you ever stopped to notice your thoughts about yourself? If so, are they mostly positive or negative? And why does this even matter?
Research tells us that healthy self-esteem is a good predictor of resilience. Think about the types of thoughts we have with healthy self-esteem eg “I can manage this situation”. Now think about things we say to ourselves when we have low self-esteem eg “I can’t do anything right”. Of course, it’s the positive thoughts that go with building resilience.
So how do we grow a healthy self-esteem?
Well… have you ever taken the time to listen to what God says about you? After all, He is your designer and creator. Here are some of the things that He says. Please take the time to study these, in order to improve your self-esteem (and therefore, improve your resilience).
You are the apple of your Father’s (God’s) eye – Psalm 17:8
You are the temple of the Holy Spirit – 1 Corinthians 6:19
You are a child of God - 1 John 3:1
You are made in God’s image – Genesis 1:27
We can trust God when He says these things. We don’t have to believe the lies that Satan tells us. We are valuable, we are loved, and we are His.
Our second area to look at this week is boundaries. Humans have struggled with boundaries since the beginning of time. Remember, it didn’t take long for the first boundary to be crossed when Adam and Eve ate the fruit. Ever since then, humans have struggled with keeping boundaries.
But boundaries aren’t just about obeying God’s laws. There are many different types of boundaries that are helpful, and many can be found in the book of Proverbs, from finances to relationships; from speech to work ethic and many more.
But how do boundaries help build resilience? Being able to put boundaries in place means you are able to withstand outside pressures, just like a wall protects you from what’s on the other side. So many times, we can be drawn into situations that aren’t helpful. Boundaries can protect us from those things, in effect being a part of our resilience.
Can you also see a connection between self-esteem and boundaries? If we have healthy self-esteem, it’s easier to set boundaries. And if we set boundaries, it helps build our self-esteem.
Take on board for yourself, how God sees you. Look to His Word to help put boundaries in place. In doing so, you will have a more fulfilling and peaceful life. And best of all, a closer relationship with our Lord. And through all of that, your resilience will blossom too.
The Lord is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer;
my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge,
my shield and the horn of my salvation,
Shauna is a Mental Health Nurse, author and speaker. She is very passionate about improving mental health through a Christian world view. Combining her career with her faith has helped Shauna to draw closer to God through seeing how intricately and beautifully He has designed our bodies. Shauna and her husband, John, have four adult children and two gorgeous grandsons. They minister at a church on the Sunshine Coast and are passionate about sharing God's love with their local community.
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